Monday, October 29, 2012

Be Like a Major League Pitcher

Just like a baseball pitcher, preparing for a World Series works at trying to eliminate mistakes while throwing that ball  the successful speaker or presenter works at continuous  voice improvement -- eliminating sloppiness while speaking. 

Back in 1953 Harrison Karr, Ph.D. summed it all up very nicely in his book  Developing Your Speaking Voice  published by Harper & Row in which he said that our goals should be to build a voice that is first of all expressive -- able to capture and project all the shades of meaning;  vital, -- full of energy and enthusiasm -- "strong enough to suggest strength of personality"; articulate -- able to recreate words clearly with no slurred  or indistinct components; pleasant --  "with a tonal quality that attracts";  free from affectation -- expressing warmth and sincerity in a normal voice; personality -- your natural personality -- whoever you are. (Don't try to be somebody else or something your're not.) 

All worthwhile goals and something all of us need to keep improving on.  And one of the best ways to do this is to work on these qualities at all times -- in our everyday conversations  as well as our speeches and presentations.

Just like that major league pitcher needs to keep working on his techniques between seasons so we too need to keep honing our speaking voices between those speeches or presentations.  

Monday, October 8, 2012

Detecting and Dealing With Fake Listeners

The best way to encourage people to listen to what you have to say is to make it as concise and interesting as possible and loaded with benefits to them.  But that still might not draw everybody in. You might still have fake listeners.

These are the great pretenders  who  respond with cliche comments like:  "That's interesting!'  "Is that right?" " How about that!" often accompanied by the appropriate  facial expression such a smile, a raised eye brow, or a shake of their heads in disbelief. They might appear to be listening intently but their minds are miles away.

But you can detect such fake listeners by watching for poor eye contact shuffling feet or fidgety hands or a disinterested slump.
Watch for these or perhaps an unrelated response that has nothing to do with what you are talking about.

You can snap such ones out of this game by asking pointed questions says Ken J. Murphy  in his book Effective Listening asking such things as: "Oh, do you find that interesting? What about it in particular interests you?"

That type of question would obviously work only with an audience of one or two persons but other questions such as: "Does anyone have any thoughts about this this?"  or other questions to see if  people understand what you are saying would work with an audience of any size.

Many speakers leave any question periods to the end of the presentation when they turn the floor over to the audience but if you  feel you might have an audience infiltrated by more than a few idea surfers -- getting carried away with whatever flashes into their minds instead of listening you to  making your  presentation more interactive  with intermittent questions will help you to keep them more attentive to  your ideas while you are speaking.

Monday, October 1, 2012

An Illustration of Commitment

Here's a good illustration about one-hundred percent commitment and success.

This comes to us through a seagull  looking for drink of  water and refreshment.  I encountered  him (or her) around the back of a building on a hot day last month seeking relief from the scorching heat. And the way it  went about is a perfect illustration of how  one-hundred percent commitment is the key to success in whatever you're trying to do.

This hot and thirsty bird could have been content to just peck at the shallow puddles on the asphalt below a leaking water tap. But instead traced the water back to is source  and put itself  right under the tap where he could drink the water as it came out of the tap and have a cooling shower at the same time.

You couldn't have been happier as the water flowed over its buddy and into its open beak until its thirst was quenched and it  flew away, refreshed and full of vitality. I'm sure this wouldn't have happened if it had been content just to peck half-heartedly at those shallow puddles full of sand and other debris from the building under demolition.

The to its success was willingness to  put everything it had into getting refreshed with that water just as the key to any project we start is the same one-hundred percent commitment to doing whatever it takes to succeed.

Not too bad an illustration for a speech or even some feature article. You might even be able to use something like this an an interest grabbing introduction to your speech  or presentation.

Just remember that such illustrations are all around you if you keep our eyes open for them and keep that camera or note book handy.